And the LORD God said, “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.”
And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall on Adam, and he slept; and He took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh in its place. Then the rib which the LORD God had taken from man He made into a woman, and He brought her to the man.
And Adam said: “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.” -Genesis 2:18, 21-23
As a blueprint is to an architect, so is God’s Word to us. Builders are to keep to the design laid out for them in the written plans. To deviate on measurements would be a cause for other parts of the whole to not fit together, but to build according to the written pattern would bring forth the beauty and building that the architect originally designed. Moses knew this to be true. As he prepared for the construction of the tabernacle and its furnishings, God intentionally told him over and again, “…See to it that you make them according to the pattern which was shown you on the mountain” (Exodus 25:40). God has established for us in the Bible His written plan and original design for marriage. As believers, we are to carefully follow the pattern given to us in the Word of God; doing so will lay a firm foundation and provide a home of beauty and strength that will bring glory to God and will withstand both trial and storm.
In considering the blueprint of God’s design, God tells us in Genesis 2 that from the beginning it was not good that man should be alone. Now at this point, fill in your spouse’s name. God would design a helpmate comparable to him and present her to him as his wife. You’ve got the idea…fill in your name there. God brought you to be the helpmate your husband needed, to minister to him by meeting his needs, as 1 Corinthians 11:8-9 tells us, For man is not from woman, but woman from man. Nor was man created for the woman, but woman for the man. This is a place of honor and beauty that God has designed for us as wives.
I want to highlight three areas on God’s blueprint of how we can live out our role as a helpmate to our spouse: First, we can help by providing him with our companionship; next, with our closeness, and thirdly, by caring for his needs. Companionship was what Adam couldn’t find in any other creature in the garden, for God had a plan that Eve would provide him with the company that he needed. You are the one person God has ordained to meet your husband’s needs for companionship in a way no other can. Take the time to ensure your husband is nurtured with your friendship and not left feeling alone, by providing him with time spent together enjoying open-loving conversation and being a confidant he can count on. Recreation is also another means of meeting this need. Accompany him on random errands, take part of what interests him, join him at his side at his favorite activities or hobbies. Sometimes the small sacrifices we do to fulfill these things can make a big difference, adding strength to our marriages.
A second way to help our husbands is by providing them with our closeness. 1 Corinthians 7:3,5 says, Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her, and likewise also the wife to her husband…Do not deprive one another except with consent for a time…and come together again so that Satan does not tempt you… Lavishing upon your husband the affection that he needs will not only fill his cup, but yours too, and will wisely keep a safeguard about your marriage from the fiery arrows of temptation.
Thirdly, as your husband’s helpmate, caring for his needs is a sure way to not only help him, but will show him love, honor, and respect. What are your husband’s needs this week? Feel free to ask him! And then roll up your sleeves to serve him for love’s sake.
In closing, you may have noticed that helping requires giving; which requires a willingness; which requires the energy and strength to do it all. Remember the words of Jesus who said in John 15:5, “…without Me, you can do nothing”. Conversely, Philippians 4:13 declares with confidence, “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me”. As wives, and as God’s daughters, let’s take the time to be filled with the Word of God and with the Spirit of God, so we can go in the strength of God to fulfill the plans of God, His blueprints for marriage.